A Little zanie-ness

The musings of a brilliant mind (and a whole lot of day to day stuff that isn't quite so brilliant!)

Monday, February 18, 2008

The Meme of Us

Got this from Zoot and thought it would be neat to do. G and I have been VERY close lately and this is sort of a "tribute" if you will, to us.

The Meme of Us

How long have you been together? Let’s see…we met online in July 1996. We got married in May 1997. From the day we first met, 11 ½ years.

How long did you date? 10 excruciatingly long months of long distance dating and sky-high phone bills.

How old is he? A very young 51. He even got carded the other day.

Who eats more? I think he does but I am not certain. And besides, I don't think I would admit if it was me!

Who said ‘i love you’ first? I did but I was positive that the feelings were mutual before I said it.

Who is taller? I am.

Who is smarter? It depends. He’s extremely intelligent and has a couple of degrees, but I’m certainly no dummy either.

Who does the laundry? Mostly me, but he will do it on occasion, too.

Who does the dishes? 90% of the time, he does.

Who sleeps on the right side of the bed? If you’re standing at the foot of the bed facing it, I do.

Who pays the bills? I do.

Who mows the lawn? He does, or the older kids. I used to love doing it but had a GIGANTIC breakout of hives last time I did it and have refrained for doing so since then.

Who cooks dinner? 90% of the time it’s me.

Who is more stubborn? In the traditional sense of the word, he is. But if I’m dead set on getting something, I will let him think he’s getting his way and then do it my way.

Who kissed who first? Um…I’m not sure. It was pretty mutual.

Who asked who out? We didn’t really start dating in the normal way. Okay, I did invite him to fly out and visit so I guess that would be me.

Who proposed? Him. Son and I flew out to Seattle to visit and went out to an exquisite restaurant for dinner. Son fell asleep at the table so we finished our dinner and went home. Put Son to bed and was sitting on the couch while Hubby was getting wine and glasses. He set the glasses down, got down on one knee, opened the little drawer in the coffee table, pulled out the ring box and proposed. He said he was going to do it at the restaurant so Son could be a part of it but the little shaver fell asleep so he waited until we got home.

Who is more sensitive? Hmmm…we are both EXTREMELY sensitive. The difference lies in how we deal with it. I wear my heart on my sleeve and you can tell immediately that I am wounded. He is more of a slow burn and shoves it away for later. You can’t tell you’ve hurt him for a little bit. I am also quick to forgive and move on where he is happy to hold his anger.

Who has more friends? I do.

Wednesday, February 13, 2008

Putting it Out There
I am copying this from I Got Two Babe, who copied it from Swistle. It is a meme of sorts, but I think it is more like Anonymous Therapy. Just write a list of the things you wish you had said but didn't. No backstory or names needed.

1. I should have NEVER EVER told you. We would have been fine on our own.

2. I wish you hadn't been there when I found out. I didn't get a chance to process before you decided we had to tell the whole damn family.

3. I'm so sorry that happened between us. Part of the reason I am so fat is because I don't feel worthy of a happy life because of this. I know I've apologized before but I don't think you underdstand the depth of my remorse.

4. I was in a vulnerable spot and you played me like a violin. I worshiped you and believed you when you said you loved me. You just like the stroke it gave your ego!

5. I wish I'd had the guts to pick up that dead snake and shove it in your face.

6. Yes, I know you had MANY MANY affairs. We were young, we weren't stupid.

7. And yes, I know you had an affair, too. Do you really think I believed you were in counseling?

8. I'm sorry I wasn't there to take care of you. You gave me so much and taught me everything I needed to know in life. If I had the ability to do it all again, I would have dropped everything to be there for you.

9. Many of my beliefs about men were formed from my relationship with you. Thank you for being that kind of man.

10. I know you weren't perfect when you were younger but you were perfect in my eyes; both of you.

11. I refuse to allow you to walk all over me. It's how I was raised but not how I live my life anymore.

12. We were close friends but things have changed. I don't want to be your friend anymore. You aren't good for me or my self esteem. You were there when I needed you to be but I have grown and am moving on.

13. You made my marriage a living HELL for 8 years. I cannot begin to tell you how grateful I am that you aren't part of my life anymore.

14. All I wanted was another serving of lasagna. You couldn't even do that for me? They call it bedrest for a reason and this one involved the possible death of me and the baby!

15. I am not a booty call. If you can't respect me as a woman/partner, we're through.

16. I know you're still battling those demons, no matter how affronted you act when I tell you to stop.

17. I was a child and I worshipped you. You both are responsible for so many bad things that have happened in my life. I have moved on, but you need to be adults and take responsibility for your actions.

Gosh, I could go on forever with this but need to be done. I may revisit this again.